Thanks for the support. We went to court today, and I was sort of taken aback by the fact that Derek “claims” he wants visitation. I don’t know if he is sincere since he has only seen Kadin once… but I only pray that this will work out for the baby’s best.

Thanks again!!!

Feel free to lean on me. Your story is identical to mine. My son is now 10 years old and has NEVER seen his biological father. We have lived in the same city and now are about 30 mins apart, but he has not interest in seeing his son nor does he claim him, but I made sure that he would be minimally financially responsible for my son via child support.

His 2nd (ex) wife and I keep in touch so that her daughter (who is younger than my son) can one day meet her brother. His 3rd wife is found out about him after they were married (he did the same thing to his 2nd wife). That’s another story altogether.

Ten years later I can say “Thank You Lord!” for keeping that jerk out of my son’s life. My husband is the only man that he knows and recognizes as his father. My son knows of his biological father, but at this point has no interest in meeting him.

Hang in there, I’ve been in your shoes and the emotional roller coaster can get to you. Feel free to e-mail me with questions, for support, etc.

My childhood was basically exactly the same as your son’s. So I just wanted to share from a child of a dead beat dad. My father said the exact same thing to my mother, he lived only 2 apartment buildings from us and yet I rarely saw him. When I was a baby he would come around a bit, but then that was it. Anyway, all this to say that all you can do is be the best mom you can be, love your son enough for a mommy and a daddy. My mom loved me tons, was always there for me and I knew that and always felt that. But I have to say, that no matter how much my mom loved me and was so good to me I really struggled in my teenage years. I was always wondering why my dad never loved me, why he never wanted me, was there something wrong with me? Why could he not love his own child or want to be a part of my life. And I still think that way sometimes, especially now that I have kids, I could never abandon my child. So I just wanted to let you know that, hopefully not, but maybe one day your son will struggle with those questions like I did. But sounds like he has a very strong mom to guide him through! Take care,
Christine